很多即将结婚的男女都有一个婚姻的神话:以为结婚之后,配偶会为你作出改变;可是十居其九,并非如此。婚前的她是一个怎样的人,婚后的她也不会有多大的改变。人的性格是经年累月而形成,不是一下子就能更改脾性和生活习惯。
请你想一想,她哪样的个性吸引你的爱,为何婚后却要她有所改变来迁就你呢?
Billy Joel 有一首歌,道出了真爱的心声:
Just the way you are
Don't go changing, to try and please me
You never let me down before
Don't imagine you're too familiar
And I don't see you anymore
I wouldn't leave you in times of trouble
We never could have come this far
I took the good times, I'll take the bad times
I'll take you just the way you are
Don't go trying some new fashion
Don't change the color of your hair
You always have my unspoken passion
Although I might not seem to care
I don't want clever conversation
I never want to work that hard
I just want someone that I can talk to
I want you just the way you are.
I need to know that you will always be
The same old someone that I knew
What will it take till you believe in me
The way that I believe in you.
I said I love you and that's forever
And this I promise from the heart
I could not love you any better
I love you just the way you are.